I would have had a blog anniversary if.....

If I was actually still blogging.....I don't know what to talk about anymore.
Rob Mack if you are out there holla at yo boy.... Slish can I get an invite to read your blog man ?!?!

Ohhhh Ok....Yeah Me Too

Damn !! I've been hoodwinked, bamboozled, led astray, run amuck, I didnt land on Blogger Rock.....Blogger Rock landed on me !!!!! I really fell for the okie doke, I was all upset and damn near in tears over someone faking their death, WTF !! What the hell is this The Young And The Restlesss !?!? Soap Opera, Drama, we got a Lifetime movie on our hands here folks !!
I dont want to comment anymore on the events that have transpired over the past couple of days...I really hope that this all serves a purpose in the end...what that is we may never know. That entire situation would be a good script for a movie (Slish if you are reading this get to work on that man)... Ending on a positive note if you read the post prior to this one, don't let someone else's (for lack of a better word)Jackassedness deter you from being a bone marrow donor, I am sure there are REAL people out there that actually need help.
If you are reading this and have no idea what the hell I'm talking about BE GLAD !! DON'T ASK !! 1

For Trish.....

I didn't have that much personal contact with Trish...only an email, and whatever comments we left on each other's blogs, but just by reading her blog I could tell that she was a very genuine, spiritual, caring, and thoughtful person.
In memory of Trish and with the hope of being able to help someone else going through what she went through I signed up today to be a Bone Marrow Donor. It was quick and painless just a couple of swabs in the mouth and you are finished, hopefully I can be used to help someone get through these things that take so many people from their families every day. I was told while there that a bone marrow donation may have saved Ed Bradley (from 60 Minutes)who passed away in November due to complications from Chronic lymphocytic leukemia. I was also told that out of 6,293,713 bone marrow donors nationwide, only 413,597 are Black. We need more Black donors people !! I encourage you to encourage someone to encourage someone else to be tested as a donor.
Bone Marrow and Stem Cell donations help people who have treatable leukemia, lymphoma, numerous blood diseases, and more. To learn more about National Bone Marrow and Stem Cell Registration Program, visit www.marrow.org.
Be Easy and as Trish always said "Stay Close"....1

This year at Thanksgiving..

This year at Thanksgiving I hope and wish...
1. That my uncle doesn't make one of his "famous" potatoe salad sandwiches..That shit is just nasty to look at.
2. That Africans dont end up arguing over the last plate of chitterlings...Have some fuken dignity they're pig intestines Damnit !!
3. That the aunties dont get too drunk off of that "yak" ...talking about how much they miss the deceased frome years back...then talking about how much they hated their asses when they were alive !
4. That my cousins dont show up just to fix a plate and leave...that is some disrespectful shit..sit your asses down and eat with the family.
5. That my Uncle (again) dosen't knock over the women and children in order to get the first (3) plates...greedy nucca !
6. That the annual "Thanksgiving Day Spades Fight" doesn't break out...that gets ugly.. Granny cant fight like she used to..and cuss fights stops being interesting after a while. This also goes for Dominoes, Checkers, Chess, Playstation, Pictionary, or whatever else the family chooses to partake in.
7. That people realize that is doesn't matter who washed dishes last year, the point is that the shit needs to be done, wash your own damn dishes...that's what I do..besides I helped wash last year. =-)
8. That the family actually stop to give "thanks" this year..ungrateful ass ingrates, nothing is promised to us, stop and realize that.
9. And more than anything I wish that I could be there with you guys (my family & friends)...with that being said.. Why can't ya'll come visit me sometimes ?? DAYUM !!

Happy Thanksgiving... 1

I Finally Figured It Out....(I think)

After all of these years... I have been hearing my family talk about how my sorry ass grandfather has a mistress and how wrong that is and how strong and enduring my grandmother is for staying with her man inspite of. I had formed my opinion of my grandfather long ago when he stopped speaking to me because I started dating his mistresses niece and ended up being on his turf alot (I think he did a cartwell when we broke up)...Nevertheless I never stopped to think that maybe he has a reason to do what he does. And after years of debate the jury is in !! Turns out the negro has had a reason all along. During a recent visit to my country home I ran into an older lady that claimed she recognized me and that she was my Aunt, I told her I was positive that I didnt know her and then I told her who my dad and grand-parents were....she proceeds to tell me that she knows what they tell me but do I want to hear the truth...I'm like WTF (cue dramatic music)... She tells me that my grand mother had an affair years ago with her brother and from that fling my dad was conceived (I always thought my dad didnt look like his dad but what the hell I dont look like my dad.. big deal). Then this woman tells me to question my youngest aunt about who HER father is....at this point I am about ready to dismiss this old broad and tell her to get out of my bidness, but 1 has to respect his elders. I call my aunt and tell her about the event that popped off and she tells me (shortned version) that out of 6 kids only 2 belong to the man that I call "grandfather" (more dramatic music)....I can see how over the years an affair may pop off but GOTDAMN how you go and have 4 kids by 3 other Africans and expect to keep a faithful husband ?? So now I see why my Grandma dont say shit when someone on the usher board tells her that they saw Mista (my granfather) and Ceily (his mistress) together at the grocery store, Hell I guess after all of these years He just dosen't give a Monkey's Ass what people say, shit look at what he's done over the years. Raise 4 kids that are the products of infidelity, and attempt to show some signs of a decent marriage, I applaud him for that. But my question is WHY STAY TOGETHER !! Finally I figured out why my grandma dont say shit, 'cause she can't........ I need to ask my Mom why dont I look like my Dad (What do ya'll think)
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(I also need to ask Ceily's niece why she broke it off with me. I'd bet my playa hating ass grndfather had something to do with that...I'm still trying to figure all of this shit out)

Over the Years

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is stalk them and hope they panic and give in.
I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people are just assholes.
I've learned that it takes years to build trust, and it only takes suspicion, not proof, to destroy it.
I've learned that you can get by on charm for about 15 minutes. After that, you'd better have a big cock or huge boobs.
I've learned that you can keep vomitting long after you think you're finished.
I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, unless we are celebrities.
I've learned that OJ did it.....as well as Micheal Jackson, P Diddy, and Ray Lewis.
I've learned (from an episode of the Boondocks) that Black folks love R Kelly...and don't care what he did...if the girl didn't want to be pissed on she would have moved out of the way. (think about it)
I've learned that no matter how much "they" claim to like/love you, your black ass had better be to work on time.
I've learned that if someone can't keep their own business to themselves, they DAMN sure can't keep your's.
I've learned that physical attractions can only go so far, eventually there has to be some substance there, (Or.... is freaky circus sex enough ??)
I've learned that the old "early bird catches the worm" thing...was a bunch of Bullshit, I need my sleep.
I've learned that it takes only 1 non-driving jackass to fonk uP traffic for 10,000 other people.
I've learned that the people you care about the most in life are taken from you too soon, and all the less important ones NEVER go away.
I've learned to appreciate my friends and family a lot more....our time together is short and not promised, we need to enjoy eachother.

Happy Friday bloggers !! What up Rob Mack ?? What up Blah Blah Blah ??

I'm not saying...... I'm just saying

First of all let me start by saying I didn't write this...but I am interested in hearing what my Blog Brothas and Sistas have to say... Enjoy !! 1

Bottom line--if I sleep with a woman I don't know or care about
SEX is NOT going to make me care. (I stopped doing that years ago) That
kind of sex is like scratching an itch. Once a man scratches, he's through.
He ain't sitting around thinking about that spot that itched or how
good it felt scratching it. He's moving on with his life until that spot
itches again and it don't matter which hand he scratches it with, just as
long as he gets rid of the itch.
Too many women PRETEND they can handle a sexual fling, but wind up
getting caught up and wanting us to romance and wine and dine them
and pretend we're having a "relationship" when it's NOTHING but a booty
call. Come on, ladies, y'all know I'm telling the truth.
Unfortunately, ladies, you are part of our problem. You sleep with
us BEFORE you know us or what we're about. Having sex with a man does
not automatically make that a "relationship". Many women will deny they
think like thi s but I'm speaking from personal experience. Also,
ladies tend to know when their men are fooling around and still turn a blind eye by
getting mad at the other woman. Now, what kind of sense does that
make?
Why should that woman make YOU (a total stranger) a priority in her
life? IF HE DID NOT MARRY YOU HE IS STILL SINGLE. The "other woman"
is not breaking up a "happy home".
Many women marry men who were cheating BEFORE they walked down the
aisle and then are SHOCKED that a fancy wedding dress or an expensive walk
down the aisle didn't change who he was. Why should he change? YOU
let him know it was acceptable by sticking around that long.
Ladies, start living with your eyes OPEN. Most shady men give
themselves away one way or another, usually before the first 30 days. Women
have to stop "rewarding" unfaithful men by pretending it ain't happening.
All of us Black Men do not cheat. I do not cheat on my lady so don't buy the hype.
I know other Black Men who do not but many men WILL cheat if there are NO
real penalties for it.
Stop jumping into bed with brothers YOU DON'T KNOW. That means fewer
opportunities for men to cheat. Women have to STOP being so afraid
to ask the important questions that would reveal his TRUE lifestyle.
Worry LESS about what kind of job he has and what kind of car he drives
and encourage him to talk about his past, particularly his past with
women.OPEN those ears and listen. Does he put down his ex-women and blame
them for everything? And don't be so vain. You are NOT a better woman
than his last. If he dogged her out, you will probably be NEXT.
Observe him when you are with him. Do you have his home number? Work
number? Have you seen where he lives? Where he works? Is he
secretive?
Did you ask if he's married or engaged? How does he treat other
people?
Listen to what he says, NOT what you want to hear. Stop INTERPRETING
the meaning of what he says to fit your purposes. If he says, "I'm not
lookin' for nothing right now" -- DON'T tell yourself, "Aw, he just
scared of getting hurt. I can change his mind.." NO YOU CAN'T. He
said exactly what the hell he meant. BM don't have to lie when so many BW
are already DEAF.
If you can't answer BASIC questions about a man DON'T OPEN YOUR
LEGS. I could kinda understand back in the days when sex wouldn't KILL
people but now? there's no excuse and if a BW takes that huge risk of
sleeping with a STRANGER then she better protect herself -- sexually AND emotionally.
Show our azz the door if we pressure you for sex too soon. Don't be
afraid to be alone. After you give our azz some you will probably be
alone anyway but now you feel like a fool. In other words, take your
time and check us out. if we REALLY like you, we'll stick around.
BUT if you decided to sleep with a man you hardly know, PROTECT yourself
and keep your expectations to ZERO. We do not owe you a relationship or
another date just because you had sex with us. That's not how it
works,baby.
I have TOO many female friends who give me horror stories that could
have been avoided if they'd done their homework first OR moved
SLOWER before giving up the panties. I try as a Black Man to give them the best
advice I can but that won't mean a damn thing if BlackWomen continue to live in a
dream world. You are TOTALLY RESPONSIBLE for your own sexual behavior the
same as I am. Blaming the man won't change a damn thing. Black Women have to look
in the mirror and take SOME of the blame for what's wrong with BM/BW
relationships. Let me end by saying....
SEX DOES NOT = A RELATIONSHIP
GIVING A MAN A READY-MADE FAMILY WILL NOT MAKE HIM COMMIT IF HE
DOESN'T WANT TO
A MAN WILL NOT RESPECT A WOMAN WHO DOES NOT RESPECT HERSELF OR HER
BODY...IF YOU TRADE SEX FOR MATERIAL THINGS YOU ARE PROSTITUTING YOURSELF
IF HE DOESN'T TAKE CARE OF HIS OTHER CHILDREN WHY WOULD YOU HAVE A
BABY WITH HIM?
IF YOU REWARD A DOG WHY SHOULD MEN STOP BEING DOGS?
BRING MORE TO THE TABLE THAN YOUR BODY. NO YOUR P*ZZY IS NOT MADE OF
GOLD. IT IS ONLY AS GOOD AS I THINK IT IS. BELIEVE THAT.
BLACK WOMEN are going to have to raise their standards if they expect BLACK MEN to
do it. The question is, are my beautiful Black Women up to the challenge? Are
you willing to be strong and stop taking the easy way out? Ladies,
ladies, ladies, hit me back with some truth, not some bullshyt. I don't want
to hear: "What you said don't refer to me 'cause I got my shyt together
and I'm a proud black woman who intimidates men and I never made no
mistakes, it's those other women who do things like that."
No, no, no! I don't want to hear you putting yourself on a pedestal
because I KNOW you've made mistakes. I want you to hit me back with
some
TRUTH. What are BW going to do about these shady, shaky
relationships that wind up in divorce court 60-70%% of the time, that's if we
bother getting married at all? What are Black Women going to do DIFFERENT to make
this shyt better? Hit me back, ladies and gents..